Basic rules on how to help children socialize
The main problem that blocks secondary socialization in children is the low self-esteem they may have in themselves, which leads to problems of misunderstanding, rejection and shyness. Parents play a crucial role in forming a positive assessment of their child’s abilities, which they can enhance by praising their abilities and letting them notice and understand the consequences of their possible mistake.
A fundamental aid for the increase of socialization is sharing, which turns out to be difficult to apply in childhood, considering the very close bond that the child establishes with his objects. This obstacle can be easily circumvented with small exercises to be done at home: for example by asking the child to lend his toy to his sister or brother, or by asking him to share snacks, pointing out how these small gestures can be pleasant and rewarding. In the event that the child is an only child, these exercises can be carried out with the parents themselves.
Collaboration is the other key element, to be solicited through some activities such as: preparing the table, organizing your backpack, etc. All small and simple activities, therefore, to be carried out also with the parents, who must also remind the child to always thank them at the end of the cooperation carried out.
A further help to the relationship is the presentation, that is to teach the child phrases such as: «Hello, my name is […]. Do you want to play with me? », This will help him feel more secure and know how to relate to public places.
If the child has difficulty in relating, it is essential not to force him into this approach since everyone has their own times and some infants may be more shy than others.
Explain that he (or she) does not necessarily have to find everyone nice, but that kindness and education are always necessary elements, thus teaching him the distinction between feelings and behavior.